Sunny Haddleton Still Very Ill

[musicmaker]

Hello All,

Sadly, I have to tell you that Sunny (My Wife) is still very ill, after a month in hospital. The Psychiatric Team have now passed her over to the Neurological Team, having decided that her problems are not psychiatric, but Neurological, because CT scans reveal shrinking of the brain in certain areas. The illness is dementia, which is much the same, or could be, Altzheimers disease, or premature senile dementia. She is so young and talented for such a crippling illness.

Whatever - the outlook is not good, and if she does return home, she will be on drug therapy, and have to be cared for at home by carers and the various agencies that can help.

I appologise for not posting lately but at the moment, I have too much on my mind to do much, and am fairly depressed, over Sunny's condition. I think it is very unlikely she will ever play again - lets hope I am wrong!

Just as a memory of happier times - here she is, and one of her songs that she played before she was struck down with this illness, that I feel expresses so much poignancy.

Tchaikovski Medley - Sunny

Kind thoughts to all,

John

[shyamwestwind]

John, this is really very sad and upsetting. Sunny was in touch with me, all full of pep and eager to do a joint venture with one of my compositions "Tears are not for crying".
I sincerely hope and pray she'll beback to her normal self soon .She really is a talented lady with a natural zeal for composing great music.
Hope you still have the S900 which she adores. It might be a good incentive to fight back to normalcy.
I wish you strength and patience - ...... faith and hope are fantastic and make miracles happen.
Do convey my love and concern when you meet her.

[kemo]

Good Lord John I never knew. I had missed Sunny's posts also over at PSR tutorial which I found very helpful. All my thoughts and prayers are with Sunny and yourself at this time and I hope that she makes a full recovery.

Thank you also for sharing her song, such a talented individual.

Kindest regards

Kieran

[geraint]

John,
My thoughts and love are with both of you.
I recall your intention to travel in your new camper with the dogs to Wales, and I was hopeful that we could meet up, and that you could park up here.
Sunny is such a talented lady, and is obviously the love of your life.

We are always here for you both, but at the moment particularly fo you John.
God bless you both.

[simmo123]

Hi John,we also would like to let you know that we are thinking about you both in what is an extremely stressful time,give our love to Sunny,From all the Simmo's downunder

[cptkay0s]

I too would like to pass on my well wishes for you and Sunny You'll be in our thoughts.

regards

Warren

[Tubbs]

Please be assured both Sunny and yourself are in my thoughts, God bless you both.

A very easy thing to say i know, but try and keep positive mate.

[weegeo]

Hi John,
So sorry to hear about your good lady, i`m sure you know that the houghts of your friends here in the forum are with you and i`d like to add mine.
I know that probably none of us really know what you are going thru personally but can i say this to you in the hope you will get some comfort from it, i myself am quite ill and my friends here in this forum have helped considerably with their kind words and prayers and i find it a comfort to know that i am in their prayers so i hope that you too can take some comfort from them as well.
God Bless you and your dear Sunny.

Kind Regards

weegeo----- George

[modbod]

John

Sorry to hear the news re Sunny. I will add my prayers that she makes a good recovery soon.

Sincerely, Michael

[shanless]

John

Sorry to hear the sad news..hopefully with the power of modern medicine and the power of all our prayers she will find comfort.
Kev

[doricvision]

John,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Sunny at this sad moment.
Bigmike

[JazzCat]

I'm so sorry to hear this. I wish a miraculous recovery for her.

[agoldstraw]

Firstly, pardon me for reviving a very old thread!

For those of you who remember Sunny, I'm dropping by here to inform you that she is alive and well. 

Though she is somewhat frailer than when I first got to know her, the truth is that Sunny does not, and has never had, dementia. This story is somewhat involved, so please bear with me in the telling of it. 

I originally got to know Sunny through John. As well as being a fellow musician, I am also a radio amateur, as is John – and he contacted me after hearing me talk on air about my musical activities. We became friendly, and as I lived close to them I occasionally dropped in on them, thus getting to know Sunny as well. They were both elderly even then, so I kept a friendly eye on them.

Although he never spoke about it in front of me, John would tell me that Sunny had dementia and it was getting worse. Conversely, I never saw any symptoms of it myself during my visits to their home.

Eventually (and somewhat uncomfortably for me), John began to confide in me that he was going away at weekends to spend time with another woman he had met online. His excuse was that Sunny's dementia was getting unbearable, that he 'had to get away sometimes' and that there was 'nothing sexual' going on. As you can imagine, I felt very compromised by such disclosures.

John eventually hooked up with another woman at the other end of the country – he said his previous 'friend' had left the country, but I suspect she had found out he had a wife at home! Again, I felt compromised and didn't know what to do.

Eventually, I got a call out of the blue from Sunny. John had left her to go and live with this other woman. The council bungalow they shared was in John's name, she had no bank account of her own and needed a lot of help. Fortunately, social services got involved – they helped her achieve financial independence and she moved in to a flat in a very nice assisted living complex.

I repeat, Sunny has never had dementia. This was a story John made up both to justify his own adultery and to keep Sunny dependent. I can tell you that he narrowly escaped prosecution on a charge of coercive behaviour. Naturally, I have cut off all contact with him. From what I can gather about John's past, he is a serial philanderer and fantasist. I can tell you for sure that he operated on amateur radio illegally for several years before he got his official licence, using a callsign he appropriated from a deceased forces acquaintance. 

On a similar note, any representations he may have made to any of you about his military record should be taken with several shovelfuls of salt – I have had sight of a letter written to John by a senior ranking officer of the Grenadier Guards ordering him to desist from claiming having been a member of that regiment.

I am writing this because I happened to come across John's original post in results from an internet search. I happened to mention this to Sunny when I dropped in on her a few days ago, and she was naturally very upset and angry that her health had been misrepresented here. 

As I say, Sunny is rather frail these days and has mobility difficulties, but she is well looked after, orders in her own shopping online and, despite John's prognosis, her keyboard is set up in her lounge and she still enjoys playing. In fact, last time we spoke, she was even considering buying a newer model!

With best wishes,

Aidan Goldstraw
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